Action Alert!!!
Seeking Survivor Stories
about the Need for Legal Services
As many of you undoubtedly know,
Senator Biden has been a tireless advocate for
victims of domestic violence, and specifically the Violence Against Women Act
which
has provided, among other things, invaluable funding for civil legal attorneys
to provide
representation to victims of domestic violence.
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American Bar Association Commission
on Domestic Violence
ACTION ALERT!!!!!!
A child who just turned
14 6 days prior to a rape from a 38 year old Orlando Paul Cisneros, her
family is NOT getting the justice they deserve. Because she was 14, not
13, Megan's Law was not held in her case, and instead of the 25 mandatory years
he could have been facing if she was still 13, Shawnee County Judge Matthew
Downd sentenced him to three years probation, instead of the suggested 13 years
behind bars. Even with him sodomizing and raping her, being found guilty
of 17 felony counts, this child rapist is free today. He not only raped
and sodomized her, but built a sick relationship with a child with her.
With a child barely 14!! Every parents nightmare has come true here.......
and yet justice has not been served. More......
IFCAA Announces Moms Lawfully Fighting for Their
Children Labeled Threats to Judges and Terrorists
CHICAGO – May 21, 2007 – Illinois Family Court
Accountability Advocates (nnix, and Ms. Karyn
Mehringer, announce that in response to subpoenas issued to Cook County Sheriff
Thomas Dart and Lake County Sheriff Mark Curran material evidence has been
obtained that Cook County Judge Karen G. Shields initiated an apparently
http://www.uaadv.org/IFCAA-Announcement.htmlfraudulent police report against three IFCAA co-members on August 16,
2006.
Mothers File International Complaint Against the
United States
On May 11, just before Mother's Day weekend, ten
Mothers, on victimized child, now and adult, and twelve leading national
organizations filed a complaint against the United States with the Inter
American Commission on Human Rights. Their petition claims that
U.S. courts, by frequently awarding child custody to abusers and child
molesters, has failed to protect the life, liberties, security and other
human rights of abused mothers and their children.
(more)
Abuse Under the Watch of Oregon's Justice System
Tim King Salem-News.com
A victim's first scream is for help; a victim's second scream is for
justice." -
Coral Anika Theill
(SALEM, Ore.) -
Just when you thought you knew what was going on in your community, here
comes a story that just may shatter the security of your American Dream.
This is a story about abuse, survival, false religion and dubious court
systems in a state that may be advanced on some levels, but sometimes
proves to be a miserable failure in terms of equity and fairness and
conventional thinking.
Please read and
leave a comment on your feelings to Tim King.
Today the National Center for Victims of Crime launched
VictimLaw, a comprehensive, on-line database of state, federal, and tribal
victims' right laws and protections, developed with funding from the Office for
Victims of Crime, Office of Justice Programs, U.S. Department of Justice.
Read more.......
Burn Letters
The exercise is to write a burn letter & in this letter
you could write it to who ever you wanted & say the things on your mind, the
next process is to burn it, shred it, tear it up & throw it away or even keep
it. The idea is to be free to say what you need to say so you no longer
hold it inside and allow it to poison you & the burning allows you to release
ownership of whatever is in the letter.
A few have chosen to share theirs....
On
March 16-17, 2007, Sturm
College of Law, University of Denver will hold its second
national domestic violence conference entitled…
Battered Mothers and Witnessing Children: Failure to Protect and
Conceptions of State Accountability
Are
we really protecting battered women and their children? Are state
initiatives such as the Green Book Project, mandatory arrest, mandatory
reporting of domestic violence by doctors, providing the safety net that
battered women and their children need and deserve? What is the state of
the law and our ability to protect women and children?
Please See The Calendar of Events
US Department of Peace
The primary function of a Untied
States Department of Peace will be to research, articulate and
facilitate nonviolent solutions to domestic and international conflict.
The legislation was re-introduced into the House of Representatives
(H.R. 3760) and introduced for the first
time into the Senate (S. 1756) This past September.
Class Action Lawsuit for All NCM's
This is a Class Action
Lawsuit for All Mothers who are fighting for their children. This
Class Action Lawsuit will be done free of charge. If you are
fighting for your children, you need to read this!
Information on the Voter and Address
Confidentiality Program
Voter registration is a
public record and can be viewed by almost anyone. While access
is sometimes limited to political parties/candidates, journalists and
academia, a study conducted by
The
California Voter Foundation
indicates that 22 states have unrestricted access to voter records.
Address Confidentiality
Programs (ACP) and Confidential Voter Listings are programs administered
by the state enabling victims of domestic violence (and sometimes
victims of sexual assault and/or stalking)
Voter registration is a public record and can be
accessed by almost anyone. While access is sometimes limited to
political parties/candidates, journalists and academia, a study
conducted by
indicates that 22 states have unrestricted access
to voter records.
Address Confidentiality Programs (ACP) and Confidential Voter Listings
are programs administered by the state enabling victims of domestic
violence (and sometime victims of sexual assault and/or stalking) to
participate in the voting process without fear of being found by their
abusers. ACPs generally provide a substitute address for all public
records. Confidential Voter Listings only provide confidentiality on
election-related public records. Currently, only 23 states provide these
life saving options. Below is a listing of existing confidentiality
programs. **Please note: while legislation has been passed in each of
these states to create Address and Voter Confidentiality Programs, state
funding may limit program availability.
"Children Taken By The Family Courts" Quilt
This year, the Battered
Mothers Custody Conference is going to host a community quilt entitled
"Children Taken by the Family Courts." The quilt will be
modeled after the AIDS quilt that was started in 1987 and that has since grown
tremendously, gaining wide publicity for the cause of combating AIDS and HIV
infection.
Up and coming on UAADV!
AOM Corner
AOM
(Angels Outreach Ministries) Corner will be launched soon on UAADV. We of
Christian Faith want to reach out to those Victims & Survivors that need support
in their relationship with God. Whether you become a member of our AOM
Group or not, this will be here for you soon. For those affected by
Domestic Violence have someone on their side that abusers will never have, and
that's God.
UAADV TEENS
We will
soon be launching our UAADV TEENS section of UAADV. We feel that reaching
out to teens about Domestic Violence is a necessary movement towards decreasing
Domestic Violence in the future.
UAADV KIDZ
We
will soon be launching our UAADV KIDZ section of UAADV. Many state that
Domestic Violence doesn't affect the children, they are wrong. Here will
be a safe place for children to learn, have support, heal, share, and know that
they aren't alone.
What's New on UAADV?
Squares of Hope
The Mission of
Squares for Hope for Domestic Violence Survivors is quite simple.
We are striving to get as many squares together so that we may get
as many afghans made as possible to help comfort DV Survivors, Victims,
and the families and children left behind when one looses the battle.
Your squares donated will be matched up with other squares donated, and
a picture of each finished Crocheted Square Afghan will be shared.
Wings of Hope - Contributing Angels (WOHCA)
We are a
group
of contributing and crafty women who wish to assist victims of
Domestic Violence with our handmade items.
Although we are mostly craft types we also make gift
bags/baskets with essentials such as personal hygiene items. You don't
have to have a craft to enjoy your stay with us and help those in need.
These items go to adults and children who have to go through the safe
home system and start their lives over in order to live safe and free
from abusers. No matter what your craft YOU can help someone by showing
you care. Some of our crafts include, and definitely aren't limited to,
crochet, knit, sewing, bead work, painting, and origami to name but a
few!
Survivors Stories and
Protective Parent Stories
There are new stories on UAADV, and more coming
soon. If you have a story that you would like to
share, please do
so! In order to Raise Awareness and help others understand the
true affects of DV and what it means to become a Non-Custodial Mom, it
takes sharing our stories to do so.
Remember Our Names
UAADV would like to share with you the stories of those that lost their
battle against Domestic Violence. We, as Survivors, will be their
voices and share their stories in hopes that others will understand how
much of a travesty Domestic Violence really is. Please, remember
not only their names, but the life they lived and lost to such a
senseless act..........
If you would like to
share a story of a loved one that has been lost
due to Domestic Violence, please do so.
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New flyers and informational tri-folds have been uploaded, please take a
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Domestic violence and children
- Domestic violence (often called ‘family violence’) can include
physical, verbal, sexual or emotional abuse. Children who witness regular acts
of violence have greater emotional and behavioral problems than other children.
Even very young children can be profoundly frightened and affected.
Domestic violence - tips for children
- If you live in a home where there is a lot of violence, it can be very
upsetting and frightening. Violence in the home is always wrong and it’s never
your fault. These tips might help you learn more about how to stay safe, what to
do, types of violence and how to get help if you are being hurt.
Guardians Ad Litem In Private Custody Litigation: the Case For
Abolition -
On July 17, 2000, the San Francisco Daily Journal
published an
editorial written by then sixteen-year-old Alanna Krause, an honor student
and the daughter of a prominent and wealthy California attorney. The essay
poignantly brought a very rarely seen ’consumer’s’ perspective to the issue of
guardians ad litem in private custody cases. She began her articulate discussion
with accurate observations:
Guidelines for Mental Health
Professionals - Best Practices in Domestic Violence Cases; Screening for
Domestic Violence; Responding to Disclosure; Couple and Family Counseling; and
Safety Planning
Help!
I Still Love My Abuser! -
In a recent email, a reader
asked the following question:
"Why do I continue to feel love for this person that abused me? I DON'T miss
the abuse, but I do miss the good times we had... I still cry sometimes
because I miss what I thought we had. Is this normal?"
Hot-Line Help Numbers
Just Exactly What is Codependence?
-
Some of the nicest people I know are codependent. They always smile, never
refuse to do a favor. They are happy and bubbly all the time. They understand
others and have the ability to make people feel good. People like them!
Learning To Love Yourself
-
According to the song written by Michael Masser and Linda Creed, Greatest
Love of All "The greatest love of all / Is easy to achieve / Learning to love
yourself / It is the greatest love of all." I agree that, for many people,
self-love may be the greatest and most important love they ever experience in
this lifetime. However, for so many people, "learning to love yourself" does not
seem so "easy to achieve." For most of us, genuine self-love seems so elusive,
so much harder to grasp than we expected. In my last piece, I spoke about the
importance of self-love. Now, I would like to give some practical suggestions -
some first steps -- on how to learn to love yourself.
Love Addiction
-
Love addiction is often perceived to be "less serious" than other process
addictions (i.e., compulsive sexual addictions, eating disorders, or
self-harm/mutilation addictions). Perhaps because it sounds "softer." In
reality, it is extremely painful and can be very dangerous to both the addict
and their partners. Many abusive relationships, suicides, murders, stalking,
rapes, and
other crimes of passion have their roots in this addiction.
Maternal Alienation Fact Sheet
-
Sometimes a man who is violent within his family alienates
children from their mother as an ongoing part of that abuse. He often isolates his partner
from any sources of support, and is skilful at convincing her family, the neighbours, the
children's school, and any professionals involved with the family, that she is mad or
bad. This type of abuse has been called
maternal alienation.
JEC-Overview
Of Domestic Violence -
Domestic violence can affect proceedings in all of New Mexico's courts. It
arises in various criminal contexts, ranging in seriousness from misdemeanor
property offenses to murder. It can also be an important factor in civil
proceedings, most notably in the area of domestic relations. In whatever
context it occurs, domestic violence presents the court with unique
concerns, the foremost of which is the safety of the litigants and court
personnel. These heightened safety concerns arise from the intimate
relationship between the perpetrator and the victim of domestic violence.
This relationship increases the potential for danger in the following ways:
Parenting - coping with stress
-
Being a parent brings out a range of powerful emotions from exhilaration to
despair. Your feelings of love, happiness and pride may quickly turn to anger,
hate or guilt, depending on the situation and the degree of support available to
you. These feelings are completely normal. Most parents experience negative
emotions from time to time.
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder: Identification and Diagnosis -
Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) disrupts the functioning of those
afflicted by it, interfering with the ability to meet their daily needs and
perform the most basic tasks. Trauma continues to intrude on the lives of
people with PTSD as they relive the life-threatening experiences they have
suffered with visual, auditory and/or somatic reality, reacting in mind and
body as though such events were still occurring.
Pseudo Love -
"Love addiction" is about
pseudo love, about the external, stereotypic
appearance of love. It is not about love. While a love addict may look as if she
is pursuing intimacy with a vengeance, she is, in fact, running away from
intimacy as fast as she can. Love addiction is about unhealthy dependency and
about poor self esteem. It is about a fear of abandonment and about an impaired
sense of identify. It is about holding on to a relationship(s) at all costs. It
is
not about loving too much.
Self-Love and Narcissism
- There
are two important differences between healthy self-love and malignant
narcissism:
Self-Love and Self-Destruction
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Tips For How To Love Yourself -
Learning to love yourself isn't easy -- especially if you're a survivor of
childhood abuse or neglect. But there are things you can do to boost your
self-love.
Sexual (And Love)
Addiction -
Sexual addiction is rapidly
becoming recognized as a major social problem
with similarities more well-known to alcohol and drug addiction or compulsive
gambling. We are becoming accustomed to hearing about sexual scandals in our
communities, in the workplace, in churches and schools, even in the White House,
involving those in which we place our trust.
Toxic
Love -
"As long as we believe that someone else has the power to make us happy then
we are setting ourselves up to be victims" - Codependence: The Dance of
Wounded Souls
Why a Victim Stays or
Returns - None of these are being shared to provide victims with
"excuses" for
remaining with an abusive partner. These are being shared because if victims
understand some of the reasons why they stay then those who do want to leave
an abusive relationship can work on overcoming these:
